Thursday, July 19, 2012

The Mommy Mindset: How have your perceptions of others changed since becoming a mother?

Posted by Valerie's Reviews at 7:32 AM

I feel that I am way more understanding towards other parents now that I am one. 

Cyndy: I am COMPLETELY less judgmental and much more understanding. It is a whole lot harder to judge others once you are literally walking a mile in their shoes. I have felt the looks of others on the rare occasions my daughter has had a meltdown in a store or refuses to listen and I don't feel the need to inflict those looks on another mother. Often if I find myself at the grocery store alone and there is a mother with children behind me in line, I will let them go in front of me - especially if it seems like their child is about to run out of good behavior. We have all been there!

Emily: I find myself more tolerant of how strangers interact with their children than I am with how my friends and family members interact with theirs. That is likely because we tend to think that people who are "like us" will behave "like us" and strangers will be...well, strange!

Gena: I am less judgmental of other parents, for sure. I try to give a smile or an understanding word to a parent with a child having a temper tantrum in the store. However, I think I've become less tolerant of parents who belittle and curse at their kids in public. Parenting is hard, but there's no need for that. It makes me sad because those kids are just like my own.

Darcy: I'm definitely less judgmental now. So many of my views have changed. Now if they are ignoring inappropriate behavior and just letting them run amuck in the store I don't think that's too cool, but when you see that familiar look on their eyes (tired, overwhelmed, stressed, and embarrassed) as they try to restore peace.

Lena: Totally. I had no understanding of things I have now. I went from "What is his mother thinking? The child is s-c-r-e-a-m-i-n-g" to "Yep. This is my child. Stop staring at me. She is just throwing a tantrum. What do you expect from 2 year old?.."

Ghada: I always cringe and hope I wasn't judgmental in my singledom days - especially when I see a mother who looks like she is trying her hardest but her kiddlet just won't cooperate. Like Gena said, I try to give a sympathetic smile to a mother who looks like she is just about at breaking point. We've all been there and I hope that little smile will keep her from cracking

Thank You for your valuable input Cyndy of Mama Does It All, Emily of Nap Time is My Time, Gena of Life With Captain, Darcy of Tales From the Nursery, and  Lena of Way2Goodlife, and Ghada of Mama goes BAM.


pinktaz60 on July 29, 2012 at 5:13 PM said...

Betsy Barnes
I found I am more tolerant of children in stores now that I have my own :)

RealtorSD on September 1, 2012 at 8:10 PM said...

Good post. I had now idea how hard it was until I became a mother. One example is that breastfeeding was harder than I expected.

Lena B on September 21, 2012 at 1:44 PM said...

Interesting prospective - it did change me a lot

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